These are just a few little things I have learned along the way. When I have let go of these—I have experienced such liberation, joy and peace within myself.
1. Wake up and look at Facebook right away. Instead I make a perfect latte and read something spiritual to feed my soul for the day and set the tone for how for how I want it to unfold.
2. Rush around scrambling for time. Instead I give myself more time even if that includes waking up much earlier to do things I want to accomplish which allows me to slow down. This allows me to practice being mindful with all my thoughts and actions along with practicing being in the moment. Rushing around is an offense to the soul.
3. Criticize or judge others—if I do this I am only judging and criticizing myself. Everyone is an extension of me. I was told that a family member was talking shit about me. My own flesh and blood. I guess I wasn’t surprised. I am the ‘unsuccessful’ one of the 3 of us, but as hard as I try to be accepted by my own siblings, I am not. So it comes pretty easy to me to start believing them sometimes. But when I heard what was said about me recently, I was devastated. No one would ever believe that I was successful at one time. Not the way my own sibs talk about me. Brings me to tears, but I have learned from them. I really have.
4. Gossip. Gossiping destroys our consciousness and weakens our being. Instead I remove myself and don’t engage in it at all costs.
5. Speak harshly about myself. Our body and mind listens to every thought and word we speak to ourselves. Instead I practice compassion for myself and acceptance.
6. Eat animals and their by-products. I haven’t mastered this yet. I still love a good steak and well, Longhorn is still my go to restaurant, I am doing better. My family thinks I am foolish. I think I am okay.
7. Swear as much. The more the hard shell of my existence crumbles (the identity of what I think I am) the more my being softens and the less I feel compelled to use such harsh words. We are defined by our words.
8. Emotional eating and stuffing myself with food until I am sick and depressed.
9. Request and require the approval to others. Nothing is more liberating than being Self-approved. Needing others approval keeps us in bondage and limits our expansion.
10. Compare myself to others. This is poison to our system. When I compare myself to others it’s a sign that I am letting what others say about me, get to me.
11. Pretend to be something I am not. We all wear masks to hide how we really feel, or who we , at times really are. I think if you know me, you know me. I don’t have anything to hide anymore.
12. Interrupt others while they are speaking either externally or internally. Which means while they are speaking I am not allowing myself to be distracted with my thoughts of what I am going to say next or thinking about something else like what I am going to have for dinner. Instead I hold the space for pure listening to happen. When I listen to others I listen to myself.
13. Lie to myself. Instead I honor my true being—who I really am, with all its flaws, imperfections and its beauty. I am not limited to boundaries or my ego. When I let go of this I remember who I really am